What One Resists, Persists…Another Option

  the Tao  “What is half shall become whole.  What is crooked shall become straight.                   What is empty shall become full.  The Tao is the eternal without doing and yet nothing remains undone.  Without going outdoors one knows the world.  Without looking out of the window one sees the Tao of Heaven.  The further out one goes, the lesser ones knowledge becomes.” ~ Tao Te Ching 5th or 6th Century~

A theme familiar to many faiths is that it is not only unnecessary to resist a threatening force, but that it is counterproductive.  Resistance creates persistence.  As is the Hawaiian philosophy of the Huna:  “What we resist, persists”.

This approach to life was also explored deeply by the Taosists of China more than 2,000 years ago.  The Tao reminds us of the stress that is created in a society driven by power struggles, force,  and personal ambitions.  The Tao guides sages and kings to avoid force and unnecessary show of power and rather “act only by inactivity”.  This guidance stems from the belief that the country or state would thrive as a matter of course, through the natural ordering of things, according to what should be.

This “non-action” or wu wei approach of the king or the sage is not out of weakness, laziness, or irresponsibility, but rather embraces an active alignment with that which is natural and spontaneous.,  It is achieved by consciously merging with the the Way (western translation of the Tao).  For then whatever happens seems to happen naturally of its own accord.

 An expansion on the meaning of the Way/Tao is: the eternal, creative force of the universe that is the beginning and end of all things.

When the sage has achieved this, this eternal creative force than flows through him transparently without obstacle.  In this way, the sage becomes one with the Tao, boundless and eternal and acts without aggression or partiality.

The chief distraction, equally as powerful as this eternal, creative flow is that of desire.     Desire is usually amplified by a worldly education which creates the desire for more authority and more possessions.

Unlearning is therefore the antidote to bring us back into a state of simplicity, a state of enlightenment.

In the modern world, there is a phrase that “neatly sums up the classic human response to a threatening situation; it is called ‘fight or flight’.  It is easy to feel, particularly in our current world of competition, that if we do not attempt to take control of a situation, than we are, shamefully running away from it.  Fleeing, then suggests fear.

Is there not a third option?  What if one were to stand still and face the situation, taking in its meaning and then absolving ourselves of its impact?”

The 43rd verse of the Tao Te Ching states: “the most yielding of things in the universe overcomes the most hard.” (Discover Inner Peace, Mike George, p 77)

This points one in the direction of emotional intelligence and sensitivity which then becomes more important than the use of physical strength to attempt to dominate the situation.  Instead success comes from responding to the circumstances with the greatest degree of freedom and clarity.

“There is a parallel that can be made to the emotional health of families and other tightly knit groups of individuals.  Behavioral therapists have noted that the families with the greatest problems fall into two categories: the first is the family where both the parents and children are outwardly aggressive and reactive towards one another and the second is the family which is terrified of conflict and avoids it all costs.” (George, p 78)

 See the parallel to “fight or flight” here?

Then there is the third group which exhibits the highest levels of healthy interaction. These are the familes whose members live as if they are playing a game, where testing the strength and quality of their relationships is natural and so is balancing that by responding easily and empathically to each others’ feelings, moods, and ideas.

See the parallel to the third option of the way of least resistance here?

 The way of least resisitance in societal terms involves just that: listening, observing, and acknowleding issues and problems and then allowing ourselves the freedom to let them go.

 Releasing negative emotions doesn’t give them a chance to cloud or darken our spirit or dominate the way we see the spirit of another.

Like most mystical traditions, Taoism recommends meditation to calm down the senses and allow a union with the Way that goes deeper than conscious thought to take place.  The breath is also used to facilitae the flow of universal energy throughout the body.

“The following is a Tai Chi Chuan exercise that provides a flavor of this type of free-floating responsive, but “non-resistant” experience.

 It can also be used as a meditative aid.

Sit facing a partner, quite close together.  Hold out your hands with your palms facing out. Place your palms flat against your partner’s.  Begin to push back and forth on each other’s palms.  After awhile, one of you (agree who will do this before you start) will concentratrate on following the others’s movements (i.e. stop resisiting them)and will not initiate any moves of their own.  Basically this partner will begin to mirror their partner’s movements.  With time and practice, you will be amazed to see your hands magically moving back and forth, as if of their own accord.  Once you have mastered this technique, try closing your eyes and focusing on the flow of energy that is moving your hands.  Become one with this flow.”      (George, p 78)



Getting a Jump Start on 2017 With Upcoming New Moon

Ask yourself what truly gives me peace?  What am I insisting I need to get done before I can be at peace?  What helps me to “be still”?

Within us, lies the Truth that we are more than bodies… actually we are not these bodies at all.

It is  You, the soul, that HAVE a body that has been given for a short while to play a part in this ever-moving story of life.

This body is not really yours, it is on loan from the Most Beautiful One, in order for you to fulfill some aspect of His/Her choreography in this vast play, we call the Dance of Life.

No wonder the soul’s true nature is to dance, to be free.  The yearning to be free from fears, doubts, wounds, and rules, to dance away into the beyond is a deep memory and it creates a subtle longing.

Ask yourself, what exactly do I yearn to be free from?  What makes me feel unlimited? What helps me to bring back the memory of who I am?

Every great sage has guided humanity to focus on recovering our true identity and its inner treasures.

In the 18th Century, the poet William Wordsworth wrote: The World is Too Much with Us  for we are beings ‘trailing clouds of glory’…in which he laments the distractions of the material and glories in the manifestations of our true nature.

Don’t look to the world to fulfill your soul’s longing, for the soul is eternal, and its quest is for the everlasting ‘stuff’, not the temporary bling.

Immediate gratification is highly and mistakenly over-rated in our times.

Listen to the soul, to  yourself, for you are the  only one who can take you into true fulfillment, know your inner resources, and transform your life and its difficulties.

So talk to yourself.  Go Deep into the Ocean which is You.

Along with physical detoxing, do some spiritual detoxing.

It’s almost the beginning of another year, another year, closer to the end!  Let’s make it special.

How to begin a Spiritual Detox?  Begin by burning up any inkling of belief that says the Most Beloved One, is not a loving Benefactor; for it is a lie and doesn’t serve you.

Purge each belief that was injected into you from your childhood on that tells you that this One sometimes gets angry with you.

Healing your “religious past” ensures that your “spiritual future” is powerfully positive and brings you in close connection with the Highest Power.

Find a spiritual practice that eases your  heart of all guilt, hatred, and fear: a path with Heart  that will allow the flow of more kindness, peace, love, and honesty to flow in and out of you, the being of eternal consciousness.

Commit to a path that supports you and allows you to experience the true nature of God.  Claim your intention of the kind of Relationship you would love to have with this One.  Having made your claim, commit to it.  Ask to be guided towards its fulfillement.

Remember to do a thorough “detoxing” of all ancient spiritual skeletons left unhealed in your”closet”.  Without doing such letting go will  create  deep, yet subtle forces that make it harder to move forward and melt into love, contentment, peace, and acceptance.  Clean out, open up and receive the support of the One, for He/She is totally there for you!

Consciously or unconsciously, if your strongest perceptions of the One are of fear and judgement, you will tend to be that way with yourself!  (I was definitely “there” for a looong time~OUCH!)

And the way you are with yourself is essentially how you are with others, and how others “see” you and treat you.   Your relationship with the One is so unique and it is the most intimate mirror you have. When you take the time to clean this mirror of other peoples’ fingerprints, greasy smudges, and old perceptions, the reflection that you will see, will astound you and uplift you.

You will wonder how it was possible to stay duped for so long about your own truth (worth) and the truth of the Benevolent One.

The practice of Raja Yoga has immensely helped me to clear lifetimes of confusion about my relationship with this One!!!

It is a great joy to be a practioner and teacher of this wondrous method of meditation and to assist others to be clear, connected, and complete!

Feel free to contact me, if you would like to know more about how this practice can serve you!  808-639-9436 or email: donnadalessio@yahoo.com or personal message me on Facebook.

I know you are tired, but come this is the way!

When You Become Pure, Happiness Follows

Do you know what purity is? Purity of thought, word, and deed~~~Doing things with the Highest Good of All in Your Heart~!


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“The desires of the senses have made you unhappy for many births.  Are these good things?  If you are unhappy because of them, why do you not get rid of them…. Where there is desire, cleanliness finishes and you become one who thinks a lot…  You remove mud from your homes. Why do you keep it in your minds? …

Children, give all these dirty things to Me.  Then I will put heaven in the palm of your hand.  The Beloved One fulfills all pure desires.

Children, I do not want anything else from you.  You only have to give Me those useless thoughts of yours.  Don’t hold on to them, they have no value.  They have spoiled your whole life.

This world which was once heaven has become hell…

By becoming pure, you will become happy… The main thing is to become pure….No one considers himself to be impure……

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When You Become Pure, Happiness Follows

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“The desires of the senses have made you unhappy for many births.  Are these good things?  If you are unhappy because of them, why do you not get rid of them…. Where there is desire, cleanliness finishes and you become one who thinks a lot…  You remove mud from your homes. Why do you keep it in your minds? …

Children, give all these dirty things to Me.  Then I will put heaven in the palm of your hand.  The Beloved One fulfills all pure desires.

Children, I do not want anything else from you.  You only have to give Me those useless thoughts of yours.  Don’t hold on to them, they have no value.  They have spoiled your whole life.

This world which was once heaven has become hell…

By becoming pure, you will become happy… The main thing is to become pure….No one considers himself to be impure…  The Father says: ‘there isn’t a single pure person in the impure world.’

Purify the soul, in the fire of yoga.  Don’t go into too much expansion about anything, but make effort to become soul conscious.”                                                                 {murli:1/8/2016}


“To the sweetest, beloved, long-lost and now found children…the spiritual Father, Mother, says namaste to the spiritual children.

Out of Great Love,  the Beloved is pulled to see the plight of so many souls at this time.  Advice is given through the “murli”.  Many wonder ‘why does the world exist?’  It exists to make us happy.

When the children begin to drown in sorrow, then the One reappears to make us happy again.  He has appeared.  He comes for the benefit of all.

The Beloved is called the Supreme Psychologist, making complicated people simple once more, destroying the neurotic labryinths we have built in our minds.  Putting a smile back on the faces, making old men dance like young boys and world-weary artists create again.

Who is sharing this story with their friends, that no one knows what to make of,  the ridiculous story that God has landed on earth!  It is conservative, down-to-earth people, lawyers, doctors, businessmen, engineers, scientists, suddenly smiling as they never had before, for the eternal Beacon of the world gently calls: ‘Children, come and sit in My lap.’

Children rush to sit in the lap of a phony Santa Claus.  Now we are offered the infinite lap of the real Santa Claus.  Was ever so much bliss offered to so many –and accepted by so few! ” (Adi Dev pp258-260)








Feeling Inspired~

I’m consciously doing this, very systematically today.  Actually checking every few moments, just so the mind knows, I’m on duty.  We have a mind to serve us, but for so long the mind has had free rein (reign) to run the show.  Let your mind know, that it can relax now and take direction from a higher power~the soul and of course, the Supreme Soul.  Sharing some thoughts on “Thought Power” from Dadi Janki today.


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                                                    THOUGHT POWER

“Pure thoughts are those that express our spiritual personality.  Impure thoughts are all the others.  They have nothing to do with our truth.

Thought is the vehicle which takes us from our non-spiritual self to our       truth….

By elevating our thoughts, we can literally end up purifying the self, inspiring others to do likewise.  Our life in itself will be the inspiration for them to change.  There won’t even be the need to say anything.

Our vibrations of pure thought can reach out and touch the whole world.

Our very life can do the work of a lighthouse.”

shared from Companion of God: The Wisdom and Words of Dadi Janki

Embracing the Essence of Purity

send out the light of your soulImmersing self in yoga with the One creates purity.  Purity is needed to immerse oneself in yoga with the One.  The original essence of the self is purity therefore  the more this union is practised the easier it becomes to emerge or bring out your original nature and true self.  This focus on the Comforter of Hearts, dissolves sorrow, deception, and impurity.

” Purity is the canopy of being saved from the innumerable obstacles of Maya.  Purity is called the mother of peace and happiness.  Impurity of any variety gives an experience of sorrow or peacelessness…A pure life is where there is no trace of sorrow or peacelessness….Even if there are scenes of sorrow, where there is the power of purity the soul will not experience sorrow.  At the time of an atmosphere of sorrow, one will give blessings of happiness and peace to unhappy people…and give souls the support of happiness and peace.”



This series started with this post on January 1st. Series will be titled “How to Become a Deity”


Have your ever wondered how a goddess becomes a goddess?  Are they just born or are they self-made?  Ever wondered how Lakshmi~the Goddess of Wealth rose to that height or how Saraswati~the Goddess of Knowledge became remembered by so many?

Have you ever dared to speak only jewels of knowledge, to perfect your thoughts, to integrate the different voices (compulsions) in your heart/mind?

If you have answered YES to anyone of these questions, the article which follows this one may be of great benefit! If you answered NO to these thoughts, the article may spawn a refreshed outlook on life for you.

Either way, it is meant to be instrumental in kickstarting 2016 and will be  quite practical in creating more of what every human soul (in male or female form) silently longs for!  The article that follows will be called: “This Study is for Receiving a Lot of Wealth…

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Peace is the Foundaton of Happiness

Sparkling Star MeditationsThe Beloved One, our Teacher, says: “You souls are embodiments of peace.” (murli)

For young or old, peace is the best place to begin to experience one’s spirituality; for peace is our original religion.  During moments of silence, when one can detach from the body, the soul feels its own peace.

Practice peace so that you may stabilize in peace and  become a bestower of peace,  even while actively engaged in physical activity.  This is true peace. Look within to see if you have the special power of silence.  How much of this power of silence have you accumulated?

“The power of silence changes the entire world from peacelessness to peacefulness.  It not only transforms the human souls but it also transforms nature. ” (murli)

Reflecting on Peace:

*Peace is feeling quiet inside.

*Peace is having good feelings inside for the self and others.

*Peace begins within each one of us.

*Peace is an inside job and is our original state.

“If you are stable in the stage of pure feelings and the feelings of love, those same feelings will also emerge in others.”  Experiement with this.

“Your pure feeings will create their feelings.  Just as one lit candle is able to ignite another one, in the same way your powerful pure feelings will easily emerge pure feeings in others…Through the power of silence, that of pure thoughts, you can easily carry out physical tasks and even inspire others to carry them out….

Just as with practice, you have or can become powerful in your speech, so in the same way, increase the practice of the power of silence…that which is extremely subtle is very powerful.  So pure thoughts are more powerful than words.” (murli)

PEACE STAR EXERCISE~can be used with “children of all ages”

One of the Peace Reflection Points is …Peace is feeling quiet inside.

Since one way to be peaceful is to be quiet inside, let’s practice this by thinking about the stars way above the earth.

Imagine yourself to be just like a star, shining and sparkling so beautiful in the sky.  A star can be seen, but not heard.  A star is so quiet and peaceful.  As your thoughts are focused on shining like a star…let your body be still…relax your toes and legs…relax your stomach…and your shoulders…relax your arms…and your face…

All of your energy is focused on being a star…what color of peace do you shine with today?  Perhaps with a rose color that has the feeling of being safe and loved…Perhaps with a blue color that shines a light of peace and courage…

Whenever you wish to feel peaceful inside, you can become very still and quiet inside by remembering that you are a peace star, a point of sparkling light shining brightly.  You are a light that can be seen, but not heard.

Your thoughts are powerful and carry a vibration that can be felt, though not physically heard.  You are an embodiment of peace, a being of Peace.

This is your natural state.